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Confessions of a Hopeless Romantic

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I keep hearing success stories from my friends and coworkers in the online dating scene. I’ve dabbled in the online sites for a few years now with bupkis to show for it. Lately I’ve been more active, but it doesn’t seem to change anything. It’s very discouraging to email scores of women only to get zero responses. I can’t blame the sites as they generally cater to women in that they don’t have to pay a dime to use their services (unlike us men who have to pay a ridiculous amount of money just to send a damn email) so all those messages I send have no financial reason to go unanswered, at least. I’ve also tweaked my profile numerous times over the years in the hopes that maybe I didn’t have enough information of relevance. If I had any hair left, I’d be pulling it out right now to keep me from going insane, but maybe it’s just inevitable. Is doing things differently and getting the same result the definition of insanity or what? Why am I venting my frustrations out on my website instead of Facebook or Google+? Frankly, no one reads my website, which I’m okay with. If you do read it, more power to ya.

Mostly I’m posting it here because then I won’t have to read the same irritating comments everyone in the world frickin’ uses. What comments, you ask? Let me list a few. Maybe you’ve heard some of these yourself…

1. Just be yourself.

No shit, Sherlock! Gee, thanks for the stellar advice! The people that spew out this precious gem tend to be the ones that either got married just after high school or have natural good looks and a natural ability to hook up with anyone with hardly any effort at all.

2. Don’t worry. You’ll find the right person eventually.

Well, yeah that’s the general idea, isn’t it? Thanks Nostradamus but I can get more helpful advice from a daily horoscope.

3. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Please, just stop. *FACEPALM*

4. The right one will come along when you least expect it.

I’ve had that philosophy for ten years now and it’s gotten me nowhere. Next…

As you can see I usually get pretty shallow advice that everyone’s heard a million times. Why is that? Is it that no one cares? Maybe they’re just as clueless as me and can only barf out a canned response. Who knows. This is a question I just can’t answer. The only thing I can do is to keep stumbling though, keep sending those emails, try more sites, go out more, make myself known and hope something sticks. I suppose that’s what we all do and from a statistics standpoint, some people see results immediately, some over time, and some not at all. All I can hope is that it’s not the latter. At what point do you throw in the towel and give up? My twenties was a bust. My thirties are looking pretty bleak but still promising opportunities exist. If I don’t find anyone, I’ll probably give up in my forties and just accept the single life forever.